Life brings you exactly what you need.

“Life brings you exactly what you need. There is perfect justice in hell. There is nothing to blame. We can even say that our suffering is a gift. If you just open your eyes and see what is around you, it’s exactly what you need to clean your poison, to heal your wounds, to accept yourself, and to get out of hell.” Don Miguel Ruiz in The Mastery of Love. (p. 42)

We all live in a collective dream, where we create our personal “hell” based on what we believe we deserve. Our individual dream that we form, within the larger collective dream, is based on our perceptions of ourselves, all others, and how we inter-relate to them. Our dream also includes our overall perception of reality (phaneron) as we understand it. Our phaneron is projected from our mind, and filtered by our sensory input from our experiences in life. Beginning in childhood our experiences shaped our perception of this projected reality or phaneron we create.

We all tend to mirror each other in our interactions. In other words, I will see part of myself in you, and you will see part of yourself within me. If we see reflected parts of ourselves that we like, that go along with our projected image that we want others to believe to be true about us; we will like what we see in each other. However, if we see parts of ourselves that we do not like, perhaps even hate or fear about ourselves in someone else, we will dislike, perhaps even hate or fear the other person.

To prevent others from seeing that which we do not like, hate or fear in another person, within our projected image of ourselves; we may go so far as to mistreat, abuse and bully that person. We subconsciously want to prove we are better than they are, and not “like them” in any possible way. This behavior leads to much suffering.

Depending on the judgements we make about ourselves, we may also tend to abuse ourselves, or involve ourselves in abusive relationships with others. The reason behind this abusive relationship, is our inner judge is seeking to subconsciously punish us for not being “good enough”, in some way. We reject ourselves and judge ourselves, as being unworthy of love, or success. We than attract situations and relationships to self sabotage and punish ourselves for our perceived flaws. These judgements come from our deep inner beliefs about ourselves, which we accepted as being true, at some point in our development.

Generally we will not tolerate abuse from others that is greater than the level we allow for ourselves. In other words, as Don Miguel Ruiz explains this all very well in his book The Mastery of Love, (I am paraphrasing here.) we only allow others to abuse us as much as we abuse ourselves. If they cross the line, we will leave.

So, since we are creating this hellish dream, filled with pain, fear and suffering, it is up to us to break the cycle and create a new dream. If we chose to create anew, we can fill this dream with love, compassion, kindness, forgiveness and understanding. We need to seek Divine help, and listen to our Divinely inspired inner warrior. This Divine guidance and inner warrior God sends to help us wake up, will help us create a new and better dream. Through this guidance, our lives can be transformed. As Jesus said, “Truly, truly, I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless he is born again.” (John 3:3) To “see” the kingdom of God is to leave the Dream of hell.  We are free to leave this dream hell anytime we choose, but will we?

If so, you will be blessed beyond your present perceptions to a new and wonderful experience. In this new dream, joy is no longer dependant on your circumstances. You will have a new perception of reality. In this phaneron, you can love and except yourself, and others fully. For you yourself will be fully loved and accepted. We can only mirror that which we perceive within ourselves.

“How blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, Whose sin is covered!”(Psalms 32:1 and Romans 4:7) “Moreover, I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; and I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.” Ezekiel 36:26


May your journey be blessed with the warmth of love, the light of truth, the comfort of compassion, the peace of forgiveness, and the joy of freedom.






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