A large part of creating a successful and happy life experience comes from our own level of self acceptance. As Gautama Buddha once said, “You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
When you think about it, “What self-acceptance does is open up more possibilities of succeeding because you aren’t fighting yourself along the way.” ― Shannon Ables.
We all tend to accept beliefs about ourselves as being true, due to things people say about us, or experiences we have had. Some of these things are only briefly true or not true at all, but we take them to be a personal truth. Not all of these beliefs serve our best interests either. Some can be so counterproductive that they cause us to self sabotage our happiness and success.
As we continue our journey into creating a happy and successful life experience let us take a closer look at self acceptance, and how to help ourselves to reach deeper levels of self acceptance. In order to heal these wounds of misperception we need to use the scalpel of truth. This process can be very painful; but is necessary for our healing. We need to see with eyes of truth, and allow the scalpel of truth to open and clean our wounds. “When you are truthful with yourself, you start to see everything as it really is, not the way you want to see it.” Don Miguel Ruiz (The Mastery of Love p. 162)
As you come to see the truth about yourself, as the great Master said many years ago, “and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” Keep in mind even if something was true in the past, it does not mean it is still true now. We can use the truth to open and cleanse our wounds so they can heal. Truth is not a constant however, and neither are we. We are always growing, learning and changing. Reality also changes constantly.
Because of this very fluidity within ourselves, all others and our reality itself Don Miguel Ruiz in his book The Mastery of Love in chapter 11, on Healing the Emotional body says, he teaches his apprentices three rules to help with the process of perceiving the truth. The first rule is:
- “Don’t believe me.” You do not have to believe me, but think and make choices. Believe what makes sense to you, makes you happy, and guides you in your awakening. I am responsible for what I say, but not for what you understand.”
- He then continues with the second rule which is more difficult and states, “Don’t believe yourself.” Don’t believe all the lies you were programmed to believe about yourself, that are untrue. Things like you not being “good enough” or “not strong enough, “smart enough” or pretty enough” or any other not enough belief or not worthy belief.
You are beautiful, intelligent, and wonderful in countless ways! You are worthy of happiness and love! Stop believing the lies that cause you drama and suffering!”
Open your eyes, ears and mind to the truth, as your heart guides you to your happiness! It is your gift, and you are worthy of receiving it!
- Rule number three says “Don’t believe other people.” When they say hurtful things that make you suffer and cause you all sorts of drama, do not accept any of it as being true or personal for you.
Another great way to tell the truth from a lie is, the truth can stand alone. While a Lie needs all sorts of other stories to make it look plausible. For more information on this essential subject I strongly recommend Don Miguel Ruiz’s book “The Mastery of Love.” His book “The Four Agreements” is also wonderful for helping transform your life as well!
In summary to help ourselves reach new heights of self acceptance, in our quest for happiness and success, we need to see ourselves as we really are. We need to allow the truth to be. Then no matter how painful it may be, the truth will help us to heal. We will become free to love, forgive and accept ourselves, as we are. When we are able to give ourselves the gifts of unconditional love, and self acceptance; we will truly be free to experience happiness and success in our lives! To live a life that is free from self sabotage and doubt, will open the door for you to grow, and create the happy life of your dreams!
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her. ― Lao Tzu”
I wish you all great happiness and peace on your journey through this life! Be courageous as you open your eyes to the truth of how wonderful, and worthy of love you really are! When we can all love and accept ourselves, we will be ready to do the same for one another. <3 Namaste, until next time.