“Fill yourself with utmost emptiness. Embrace internal tranquility. The ten thousand things, see how they arise and flow around you, each one coming into being, growing, adapting, changing, fulfilling, then returning to the source as you sit in stillness in the center, watching.” Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching verse 20.
This verse in the Tao Te Ching makes me think about how in our world today, we are facing many confusing and conflicting ideas, agendas and ideologies. There are also many changes taking place in how we view ourselves and relate with one another. They can be very disconcerting to say the least, when you try to make sense of it all. I do think as intelligent beings we should always do our best to better understand one another, and create a peaceful coexistence with all those with whom we share this planet. We do not necessarily all need to agree on everything, which is highly unlikely to ever occur any time soon. We do however need to find ways to both understand and accept each other in order to create more peaceful and happy lives. I have some ideas I hope will help with accomplishing this.
In ancient Hebrew scriptures, where the creation story is described in Genesis 1:1-2 it says, “1 In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. A 2 the earth was formless and empty, and darkness covered the deep waters. And the Spirit of God was hovering over the surface of the waters.”
The formless empty darkness it talks about here is the “chaos” that all things were drawn out of. As the creation story progresses, God draws order out of the chaos, which allows all life as we know it to exist here. Within our minds our two hemispheres reflect this story in their own way. One hemisphere is more feminine, creative and yes, chaotic. The other hemisphere is more logical, linear and masculine. Our creative chaotic side is great for coming up with new ideas and ways of handling previously unknown situations. It is also our emotional and intuitive side, which causes us to be less logical and more reactive.
Your logical masculine side of your brain is more analytical, factual and reasonable. Both sides of our brains are needed to work together to reach the best possible solutions for our survival and happiness. When we fully communicate within ourselves with both hemispheres, and communicate with the other people in our lives with whom we are interacting, we can draw order out of the chaos to create a better environment for all of us to share.
Here are some ways to consider using in our own lives, to help us draw order out of the chaos around us. If we can come to a better understanding of whatever issue we are dealing with, we will be better able to solve the problems we are facing. These steps can be applied to many different types of problems you may encounter.
- Listen and Observe. When we listen deeply and fully to both sides of an issue we can reach a better understanding of the issue and how we may solve it. If you are unsure of an aspect of the problem, ask questions of both sides of view being considered.
- Contemplate and Consider. We need to think about all the points of view that are being presented with a given situation or problem. We can never reach an ideal solution, unless we fully understand both parties’ sides’ and viewpoints. Again, ask questions, and compare the answers. Think about why the person feels or believes the way they do.
- Research and Compare. Take what you have learned from both sides of the situation being debated within the problem or situation at hand. Compare the information with what others know about it. Look at historical situations that are similar and see how they were handled. Consider what is beneficial, or non-beneficial and neutral about each point of view. Consider how this affects us now, and how it may affect us later? The goal is to understand the problem from multiple angles.
- Develop a Hypothesis. Develop your ideas on how the problem may be solved. Look for ways that can meet the needs of both parties if possible. This can be done by looking for the deeper underlying needs of the people on both sides of the situation. If we can find solutions that meet the deeper underlying needs of both parties, a better solution will be reached.
- Prepare and Present. Practice Problem solving, and present possible solutions to others in your group who are seeking answers for these issues taking place. If you are the only one seeking a solution to this problem, you may need to test different responses and solutions you have thought of, when dealing with the problem you are facing. By testing your hypothesis you can see if the solution will help you reach a beneficial and peaceful resolution for the situation at hand.
These steps can be helpful in schools, universities, workplaces, homes and in our communities at large. The key to success here is to work together to find peaceful solutions for the problems we find ourselves facing within our society today.
Another key point to remember in creating a better happier life, is we are responsible for what we do and say. We are also responsible for the consequences of our actions. If we take responsibility for our actions, we cannot blame others for what goes wrong in our life. We need to see that we are creating the life that we are living. No matter what other people do or say, we alone are responsible for what we do and say. Taking responsibility for our lives is a big step towards being able to create a better and happier life. I will write more about this in a future post.
It is my sincere hope that people of all walks of life may come together peacefully and live out their lives in the most beneficial ways for all parties concerned. We are all connected, and the situations that occur impact us all in some way. If we can seek peace and pursue it; we can learn to draw order out of the chaos in our lives. This will help us to create happier and more fulfilling lives for us all.
Until next time, I hope you are blessed!