“Trying to understand is like straining through muddy water. Have the patience to wait! Be still and allow the mud to settle.”
― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching
“Be one with the Tao. Act without forcing. Teach by showing. Things come, let them come. Things go, let them go. Give birth without possessing…” Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching
I have been going through some transitions in my life lately, which have been a little hard for me emotionally. My kids are moving on with their own lives, as they should naturally do. I am happy for them, but I feel sad at the same time as we have turned some corners here in our relationships, as we each go on with our separate lives, and I am trying to learn the skill of letting go. It is harder than it sounds, but I am working on it. It is definitely a “work in progress” but isn’t everything we do a “work in progress?” I take comfort in knowing that “nature never hurries, but accomplishes all things in due time.” Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching
Finding the best person to share your life with is very important when it comes to your life experiences and levels of happiness. It can be really hit or miss at times trying to find that special someone to create the relationship of your dreams with. To help optimize your success, I have 7 awesome insights here, to help you find the best person for you, and create the happiness you long for together.
There are many factors involved in creating a great relationship with someone. While it is up to you to decide what is most important to you in your potential partner, there are some key principles that are built into the very fabric of your being, that can help you achieve your love and happiness ever after dream.
Keep in mind as you consider potential possibilities that if you can see the highest and best potential in someone, and then encourage that person to become their best potential with your love and nurturing they can become absolutely amazing! It is possible for people bring out the very best in each other or the very worst! The goal here is to help you discover how to bring the best partner into your life, to create a relationship with; in which you both bring out the best in each other. You see, love is not as much about where it begins, as infatuation only lasts about 9 to 18 months at best. Love is about the journey you create together. It is about all the little things you do to fall in love with each other over and over again. It is vital to continually feed and nurture your relationship, much like cultivating a garden to keep it alive and flourishing.
As you consider who to spend your life with, ask yourself these questions.
Will I be happy spending the rest of my life with this person?
Are we sexually compatible? Am I attracted to them physically?
Do I feel safe and respected with this person?
How do they make me feel about myself? Do they bring out my best qualities?
Do they make good decisions on important matters?
Do we make good decisions together?
What am I looking for in a relationship?
What are they looking for in me?
Why do I want to be in a relationship at this time?
Why do they want to be in a relationship with me?
In what ways is this person good for me?
Are there any Red Flags in this person’s behavior or past that could mean trouble for me? (Do they have any addictions or destructive behaviors?)
How do they treat their family members and others they are close to?
Love is not about settling for the best you can get. It is about growing together, and helping each other become the best possible versions of yourself that you can be. Our love relationships can’t guarantee us a perfect life. A great relationship can give us love, companionship, passion and opportunities to grow. We can help each other heal our deficits, and through communication create the best strategies to survive all the curve balls life can throw your way.
It is my sincere desire to help you either find and create the best relationship you possibly can, or transform the one you are in, into the most amazing experience ever! Wouldn’t it be awesome to be able to look back on your lives together one day when you are older and say, “You have added to my life in so many wonderful ways! I can’t even imagine what my life would have like without you?” Let it be so.
In part 2 I will continue with some very unique insights into the seven chakras or levels within your being, that each need to be met in order to create the best possible relationship in my next post. In part 3 we will look at creating these connections in an existing relationship, along with detecting and healing any imbalances in order to achieve happiness together.
All of us want to have happier and more satisfying life experiences. We would also like to avoid suffering as much as possible and be able to focus on enjoying life! Even so we often put our happiness on a future shelf, and focus on “the task at hand,” that we think we need to accomplish before we can enjoy the fruits of our labors.
If we were to stop and consider our lives realistically we would see that the only time we ever have is right now. We always live in the present moment. The past is a fading memory, and the future is a fluid concept that changes drastically from day-to-day, depending on the choices we make now in this present moment.
Isn’t it strange how we now have more communication devices than ever before in history, but we hardly communicate with each other in person any more? Everyone has their eyes glued to a computer screen, their phone or tablet now. I find it so very odd to see everyone on break at work, each one lost in their own shiny screen. We are all alone in a crowd of people. I really enjoy talking to people, and seeing their facial expressions, hearing the inflections of their tone of voice. It is so much better than a text! Don’t get me wrong, I do text and use electronics as much as everyone else does, but I miss the days when people really talked with one another more.
While no human being is perfect by any means, and we all have our strengths and weaknesses; the role of a Father should not be underestimated. I count myself as very blessed for having a Father who never cheated on my Mom, and never left us to fend for ourselves. He always has been faithful to provide for us, and to help us to learn how to be the best people we could possibly be. While he did make mistakes like we all do, he did his best to learn from those mistakes and to change, grow and become a better person. I have also forgiven him for his mistakes, even as I have been so lovingly forgiven by him for my mistakes growing up. I greatly admire him for always seeking to better understand things and learn better ways of relating to others. Continue reading “My Father’s Blessing”→
My Mom and Dad recently celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary on June 9th! They had a really nice time together celebrating the day with friends, and reminiscing about their special day 60 years ago, when they first said, “I do..” To me they are both a great source of inspiration, wisdom and love! Although I live some distance away, I call often to visit with them on the phone. I really enjoy spending time with them whether in person or over the phone. Continue reading “My Parents Legacy of Love”→
As I think back on the many strong and amazing woman in my family tree, and all the things they went through to raise their children in so many challenging circumstances; I feel a sense of awe and wonder at how they made it through the hardest of times for the love they each had for their children. Continue reading “A Mother’s Love Lives On”→